Beyond the Book | Bad Bookish Habits I Can’t Break

Hey, book fam!

I’ve needed this weekend much more than I thought I did. Don’t you just need a weekend with uninterrupted reading? That would be heaven.

With my last book tag, I answered one question about bad bookish habits, and that thought has stuck in my head ever since. For this week’s discussion topic, I want to tackle the dreaded bookish habits we all do, even if we hate ourselves for doing so. Here are my picks of bad bookish habits I can’t seem to break:

 

Not walking past a bookstore

The only time I walked past one was when I didn’t have money or my credit card. But any other time, I cannot resist the temptation to walk in, breathe in that glorious bookstore smell, and find my next read. I’ll be 80-years-old and still walk through those doors.

 

Reading ahead and spoiling the entire book

WHY. MUST. I. DO. THIS?! I used to hate when I pulled this stunt off. And now? Meh. But I’m starting to regret it a lot since I’ve spoiled enough endings that I shouldn’t even bother reading the bloody book. 😐

 

Buying books and never reading them for months

I forget quite a few books I’ve bought. And some of them still sit on my shelves, waiting to be read. But do I get to them in a timely manner? Clearly, not. Or I wouldn’t complain about it. Now, I have a high physical TBR pile that threatens to overtake whatever dwindling room I have on my bookshelves.

 

Worse yet, wanting to catch up on series but realizing the sequel is coming out soon (like next week/month)

Let me see how many hands shoot right up when reading about this habit. Yeah, I’m horrible and forget to read sequels until the next one is out. I don’t know how this trend occurs, but it’s been sneaking up on me lately. And I feel I’m swamped with so many sequels.

 

Not DNFing books that bore me

You see, this habit is slightly tricky. I was close to DNFing Lifel1k3, but I fell in love with it about 100 pages in though. Sometimes, not DNFing is a good thing. However, I have wasted hours with books that didn’t deserve my time. But I’ll always give the book the benefit of the doubt, even if I want to pull out my hair.

 

Not writing reviews right after finishing the book

Am I the only blogger who struggles with this problem? I hope not. Unfortunately, I have several—and yes, I mean several—reviews to write, but I’ll just start reading a new book and forget about said writing. So the reviews pile up, and I feel pressured to catch up. So I’m in a constant state of frustration when it comes to these posts.

 

Reading my book and forgetting to pay attention to friends and family

I’m horrible with that. I truly am. And my family and friends have caught me not paying attention to them. And I feel guilty when they do. But you know how reading is though. You get so focused on a book that you forget about the outside world.

 

So now you know my bad bookish habits. What are yours? Do you have similar ones like me? How do you break them, or do you simply let them control you like mine do? Let’s chat! I’d love to hear your thoughts on the topic!

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Beyond the Book | Badass Female Leads Deserve Equal Respect as Males

Hey, everyone!

In my weekly/monthly discussion post, Beyond the Book, I like to address issues that not everyone will talk about. Or sometimes I just discuss random book stuff. You never know with me.

As you can tell by the title, I may step on some toes. I’m tackling this topic. Why? Lately, I’ve seen a lot of hate for badass female leads facing so much negative backlash. No, I don’t see this post as a feminist slant. The journalism student in me will always see both sides to a problem. It’s more of the double-standard I see in fandoms or on social media platforms. So here are some issues I can’t stand in the book community:

 

Apparently, a female main character can’t have a big ego

I see this problem all the time. She can’t be as ruthless as her male counterpart. A good example is Aelin Ashryver Galathynius and Kaz Brekker. Much of the SOC fandom adores this PTSD-ridden, complex, and cunning character. I know I do. He reminds me of my mental illnesses and the struggles I constantly face because of my trauma. However, I see other readers call Aelin a “bitch.” Isn’t she similar to Kaz? Can she not have the same ego, if not more, than he does? Clearly, I’m not so sure anymore.

 

If a man offers to help her through her pain, then she isn’t seen as strong

The first step I learned about healing is to let people in, let them help you, allow them to pick you up when you can’t possibly drag your broken soul off the floor. So if a female character can’t heal entirely without receiving help, then why is it okay to criticize her when someone (particularly a man) offers that help? Don’t we adore (and often rave about) when we see another male in a different series get the same support? Is that woman supposed to suffer alone and heal on her own? No. We put too much pressure on the image of an “independent” woman. Yes, being independent means that you should depend on your own. However, it doesn’t mean total isolation though.

 

If you support a broken, badass male character, then support her

Pretty self-explanatory, right? Nope. Or I never would have listed it in my post. You may not like how she heals. But you don’t tear down her journey.

 

She can’t cope the same way as a male or another well-loved female character

You all know I wasn’t a huge fan of A Court of Frost and Starlight. However, the scenes where Nesta shows how she’s coping with her fears, her past, and her trauma spoke to me. I slowly grew to like her as a character. I don’t like her lack of sisterly love for Feyre at the beginning. But her mental illness is shining through her tough exterior. And yet, here I am complaining about the fandom completely disregarding her illness. So people support Feyre, not Nesta.

Side Note: Yes, that may be because people hate Nesta and her past with Feyre. But the issue still stands.

 

I hope, in time, the book community will give more respect to these beautiful and utterly strong women. We can’t tear them down. We need to support them, no matter what.

 

So do you see what I’ve seen? What are your thoughts on the topic? Do you think the book community will change its view of female characters? What needs to be changed?

Beyond the Blurb | I Wish Authors Wouldn’t…

Hey, everyone!

Who’s hating Mondays and wishing the weekend can be extended another three more days? 🙋🏻 I just want more time to binge read. I’ve been getting into Heir of Fire, and I want nothing more than to finish it and start the fourth book. But life likes to remind me that I have obligations and must be an adult.

I hope I don’t get killed or hated for this post, but I’ve been wanting to talk about some topic for some time. And I know I’m not the only blogger who thinks of them. So here are my top five issues I have when authors do the following:

 

Kill Off Their Main Character

WHY. MUST. THEY. DO. THIS?! 😐 I understand the book is theirs. But it unnerves me to no end when authors fall on this play. I loathe this trope. As a reader and a writer, I can’t stand it, and it ruins my love for a series.

 

Heavily Hint at a Couple But Kill the Relationship

Again, this decision doesn’t serve the story. It simply hurts and divides the fandom, which will eventually fight over it. I know of several authors who have pulled off this trope off. Now, couples can always end and find new lovers. Great. The problem I take issue with is when authors ship said couple, then not explain why those two characters shouldn’t be together. Or worse: let the fandom argue over it.

 

Don’t Own Up to Their Mistakes

Does everyone remember the Cocky Gate brought to you by Faleena Hopkins? Yeah, I think everyone in the world knows who she is. I can safely assume that author has killed off her career when she decided to trademark the word cocky. And she didn’t own up to the problem. She basked in it.

Now, when these authors realize they’ve screwed up and try to fix the problem, they gain my respect. I won’t judge them. They’re human. But when they don’t, readers are left in the mess.

 

Attack Bloggers because of Their Review

One reason why I was hesitant to be a blogger is the backlash some bloggers face when they post their review. I’m a writer, and I used to be an artist. So I understand where authors come from. I understand how they can react to an awful review. However, once a piece is released to the world, there isn’t much they can do. Books will be reviewed. Stories will either be loved or be hated. And they should move on, which doesn’t always happen.

So what do you hate authors doing? Do you think we readers are too harsh on them? Or do you believe there’s a line authors shouldn’t cross? Let’s chat. I’d love to hear from you.

Beyond the Blurb | Genres I Hope to Read More Of

Happy Friday!

This topic has floated around in my mind for some time. I’m more of a predictable reader when it comes to genres though. But I want to change things up. I want to explore more I usually don’t read and take a risk. I typically stay with fantasy, then venture into sub-genres from there. However, I want to find more authors, stories, and fandoms. But I’m always wary over new series I’m not sure I’ll love or am worried to waste my time and my money on. But no more.

So do you feel the way as I do? I don’t blame you for not taking the plunge. There are so many genres out there, so what ones are you looking to venture into? Which ones are you still not sure of? Stick to the tried-and-true ones. See which ones fellow bloggers love the most. And from there, find a book that interests you.

So here are some of the few genres I want to read more of eventually:

 

Science Fiction

I haven’t always enjoyed reading sci-fi. I’m more of a sci-fi movie lover (oddly enough). For me, I feel it has typically been an iffy genre to love. I can’t remember the reason why I fell out of love with it but have been seeing more sci-fi books come out lately, and I can’t help but gravitate toward them. I love how they’ve evolved over the last few years.

 

Romance (Particularly the Sub-Genres)

I’m starting to love romance, even though, for a long time, I’ve avoided it at all costs. I enjoy reading romance in other genres, especially paranormal. But until this year, I never took the big leap into it. However, I’ve just been too judgemental over it for no reason. Or perhaps, my tastes in books have changed.

I find romance overwhelming, and I don’t blame readers who aren’t sure where to start.

 

High Fantasy

Yes, I caught the TOG bug (god help my credit card with all the KOA book boxes I’ve just bought 😭). And I need to find more high fantasy books, stat! I never stuck with high fantasy. For years, I’ve stayed with urban fantasy and just fantasy. But I’ve been loving the detail and the complex plots and characters. I know I need to catch up.

 

Thriller

I sometimes find thrillers to be predictable. I don’t like when the bad guys go off ranting about the reasons why they commit these heinous acts. I. Don’t. Care. That’s sloppy storytelling. And it just kills the entire atmospheric tone to the book. But I hope I can find books that don’t do this.

So find a series that stands out from the rest, then go from there.

 

Historical

I rarely read this genre, and yet it’s one of my favourites. But I rarely find a great story I want to jump into. However, more authors are exploring it and making it into their own.

 

I’d love to find more series, so let’s chat! Do you have a recommendation I might like? Which genres are your go-to books? And what ones do you not like?

Beyond the Books | Favourite Bookish Merch

Happy Monday!!

I put a little bit too much zip into that line. Ahem. This week, I want to talk about book merch. Since we don’t already have a buying problem with books, we must add bookish merch to the mix. Am I right?! I know I’m not alone. I’m slowly building my collection, and I cannot believe how much there is already out there. But what should you look for when you’re on the hunt for these goodies? Well, here are my top five favourites and my tips on buying them:

 

Candles/Book Candle Boxes

I’m turning into my mother. 😭😂 But I love collecting bookish candles. I first got hooked when I saw bookstagrammers use them. And since I want to transition to Instagram shortly, I know I’ll need to collect quite a few. I’ve mainly stuck with Flick the Wick and Wick and Fable. These two companies offer such a great array of boxes and choices for their customers. I’d definitely recommend them!

But these box subscriptions can be quite pricey, especially with currency conversion, so be careful before you order! And always look for rep codes, which are your best friend.

 

Art Prints

I always want to support artists and designers. These prints are a great way to show off a book, create an art album, or hang up on your walls. I usually find them on Instagram. Etsy, Redbubble, and even the artist’s own website are good options if you are looking for a great deal. Redbubble routinely offers discounts on its items, so benefit from them and group your order. You can also look on Society6.

But a word of warning for any international buyers, be careful with the rate conversion, which will be steep, and you may get hit with a huge duties charge once your package ships to you. I’ve learned that the hard way.

 

Book Boxes

I’ve been blogging for more than two years now, and I’ve bought only one book subscription box, Owlcrate‘s limited edition Vicious & Vengeful Box. Even though I haven’t read Vicious yet (why do I do this?!), I’m bloody stoked. I absolutely love how each box caters to the theme of the book.

The best way to save on these is to look into subscriptions and to find rep codes. Both of these options will save you some money, anywhere from 5% to 10%, and some websites may offer a 10% discount code for ordering, so use it up for your next purchase!

 

Pillows

I never knew I’d ever collect pillows, but here I am! 🤦‍♀️ But with the joking aside, I’ve grown to love them. You may find them in subscription boxes (book or candle) or on sites like Society6 and Redbubble. They look awesome in Instagram shots and on your bed (if your significant other is okay with that. If not, whack them for me).

The cheapest way to collect these beauties is to buy just the pillowcase, not the pillowcase with the insert. The shipping costs will be lowered, and your credit card will thank you. You can always find pillow inserts at Walmart.

 

Book Sleeves

I’ve fallen in love with these. I’ve collected ACOTAR, Lunar Chronicle, and ADSOM sleeves, and I know I’ll probably order some more. Two of my favourite stores are Baby My Book and Pages Remembered. Both of these store owners have helped me place an order, group several orders (because, you know, I forget to look through an entire store before I confirm an order), and give up updates on new sleeves.

You can always wait for sales, or you can ask the store owners if they offer rep codes or discounts on shipping (which is a pain if you don’t live in the US).

 

What’s your favourite merch? What do you collect the most? What haven’t you collected? Let me know in the comments! I’d love to find new merch (my bank account would like to say otherwise)!

Beyond the Blurb | Support Bloggers of Minorities and with Disabilities

I always want to come up with interesting topics for my weekly/monthly discussion post. And this topic hits close to home for me. Last month, I struggled with the stress in my life, and I couldn’t blog, so I took a small hiatus. So I’ll come clean: I have mental and physical illnesses. Yes, I have multiple. Past trauma and a chronic illness have wreaked havoc with my life, and I’ve let them control me. And saying that my illnesses are disabilities is hard to admit. I don’t want to accept that they are. But they are.

So, as I write this post, I want other bloggers to know they aren’t alone. Whether they are in a minority or have a disability, this community will support them no matter what they do. And if they need help, we’re here for them. But why should you keep supporting these bloggers?

 

1. They bring a different and unique perspective to the blogging community

Sometimes, people simply don’t understand the struggles they deal with. They show you how we all aren’t completely aware of issues with PTSD, anxiety, depression, racism, sexism, racial tensions, or homophobia.

 

2. They promote diverse books

Not a surprising reason, right? I find more diverse reads from them than anyone else. And I love that. I love that they’re promoting all kinds of books and authors. More importantly, they’re showing their love for them.

 

3. They aren’t afraid to say what needs to be said

Do you know what I look for the most in bloggers? What they’re willing to say. What crap they won’t put up with. If they find something problematic, they’ll damn well tell you about it. And you’ll be sure to listen. I know I do.

 

4. Their voice is needed in a sea of noise

Most of the time, you may not hear a voice that speaks out against a hyped-up book or author. But you should. Their voice deserves to be heard, to be acknowledged. And maybe, we should start listening up.

 

5. They support other bloggers

Networking helps fellow bloggers who are in the same situation as them. If others need help, they offer support when needed. But they also build a connection with other bloggers who need that support system that may not be there in their lives.

 

So where do you find them? Networking and Google. But if you don’t know where to start, here are some of my favourite bloggers:

Merline from Merline Reads

I met her by chance through a Twitter follow post. Merline has opened my eyes with many issues that POC face today. I love reading her reviews. And it’s a pleasure to know her.

 

Cait from A Page with a View

Who doesn’t know Cait? She’s practically a blog queen of book nerds. I’ve read her stuff for years. But I didn’t know she suffered from Lyme disease. She doesn’t let that take away her love for books.

 

Yash, Nafiza, Janet, Jane, and Yuriy from the Book Wars

I’ve followed their blog for several years now. But I know Yash personally. Both she and I took Ryerson’s Publishing program together, and I happened to be in the same course as her. She’s passionate about children’s and YA books.

 

Jeann, Jenna, and Aila from Happy Indulgence

They’ve been blogging since 2012. These three women give you a happy vibe when blogging (really, no pun there). I love when they support a book that deserves recognition and when they tear down a bad one.

 

Giselle from Book Nerd

She, a Canadian blogger, is one reason why I started my own blog, and her blogging tips have helped me over the last few years. Her voice is unique, and she stays honest with her reviews.

Beyond the Blurb | So You Hate Your Blog Name

Are you in the same situation as I’m in, where you hate the name you picked for your blog? I don’t blame you. I’ve reached my two-year blogging anniversary, and yet I can’t stand looking at my URL. In my defence, I picked it when I couldn’t get the word novelties by itself. And I regret that moment ever since.

I’ve picked a new one. And hopefully, I can still get to keep my followers once I switch over to it. But now, I’ll have to look into a WP subscription in order to keep everything I’ve created. And while that step is annoying, I’m happy to make the change. I need it. And more importantly, I want it.

So what do you do when you’re stuck in this dilemma? Here is some advice that may help you pick a new blog name or find the right one for you when you already have one:

 

1. Research and See What Other Bloggers Have Picked

Before you even decide to start a blog, look at which names have already been taken. A lot of book blogs may have the words read, night/midnight, chapters, spine, reader, paper, or page/pages. While I like them, I think moving beyond them will make yours stand out. However, the word book/books is a perfectly fine option either way. If you want to use those words, go with something unique. Change it up so your name doesn’t blend in with the others. And look into blog subscriptions so you can keep it for good.

Here are some names, while a few are common, actually work:

A Page with a View: I love how this name tells a story. Even though it uses the word page, it’s unique and fresh.

Read at Midnight: Clear and precise, this name tells the readers what this blog is about.

Nose Graze: Unique, highly original and memorable, this name will always be my favourite.

The Reader and the Chef: This one goes with a theme and stands out from the rest.

My Friends Are Fiction: Alliteration will be popular with bloggers.

 

2. DON’T DO WHAT I HAVE DONE. Really. I mean that. Don’t do it.

Don’t pick just a random name because you’ll regret it. I don’t know how many times I need to use full caps, but don’t go down the road I’ve gone. It’s costly and annoying.

 

3. Figure Out What Your Brand Is

This tip is important. Figure out what it is before you move forward. Are you a book, fashion, lifestyle, food, or life blogger? What do you want your name to stand for? Once you find that answer, you’ll have a better chance at picking a name.

 

4. Talk with Other Bloggers and Bounce Ideas Off of Them

I picked my new name by talking with a fellow blogger, Danya @ Fine Print. Sometimes, getting a second opinion will do wonders for you. Trust me. Even now, I’d love to bounce my ideas off of some more bloggers just to see if the name I’ve picked is good.

 

5. Accept That It’s Okay to Change Your Name

If you hate it, change it. And you know what? I know many bloggers who have changed their names several years in. Ashley from Nose Graze changed her name two years in. Don’t be afraid of change. It’ll bring in a new stage to your blogging.

 

6. When You Have Picked a New Name, Announce It Multiple Times, over Multiple Platforms!

And this final step is vital as well. Don’t just change it and forget to tell your followers. They’ll have a hard time finding your blog. And you don’t want that. Break it to them that you want to change your name, and you’re in the process of doing so.

If you want, you can leave your blog theme and design the same for a month or two so they can see that your blog is the same. The name has just changed. And yes, this point is where I say I’m changing my blog name.

So what are your thoughts about changing a blog name? What do you think about doing it? Are you in the same situation as I’m in? Let’s chat!

Beyond the Blurb | Tropes That Turn Me Off from Reading

Happy Saturday!

It’s about bloody time I’ve done another discussion post. I’ve had the ambition to do it weekly, but I seem to have forgotten. 😅 I’ve been wanting to write about this topic for a long time, and Kathy @ Book and Munches is what sparked me to think about tropes that may persuade me to DNF a book.

So how much time do we waste with dealing with annoying tropes? Too many. Yes, some work, while others are overused and drawn out. I don’t know how many times I’ve rolled my eyes at ridiculous avoidable storylines. But I must admit that, if used correctly, tropes can enhance an already brilliant book and series. But I wouldn’t be here complaining about them if all of them were.

Now here are my top five tropes I’d love to see disappear:

 

Abused Woman/Girl Healing by Falling in Love with an Alpha Male

This kind of trope can go either way really. Some authors can pull it off rather well, and others, well, can’t. But some authors, particularly paranormal romance ones, believe a woman must fall in love with an alpha male in order to heal from an abusive relationship. No, she doesn’t. Frankly, she should run the other way and maybe find a nice guy who’s the exact opposite. But most of the paranormal romance industry would keel over and die if it weren’t so dependent on this trope.

 

Biphobia

Apparently, a bi man and a bi woman simply cannot date because their relationship would be seen as a heteroromantic one. Excuse me? Let me all remind you that it is possible and happens all the time. The bi man can get the girl, or he can get the man and vice versa. Frankly, there is no polar extreme in sexuality. There is no “either gay” or “either straight.”

 

Cheating

Do 👏 not 👏 promote 👏 it, especially in YA books. I don’t care if over half of all YA readers are adults. They come from all ages, and we shouldn’t promote that cheating is the best (and only) solution to be with the person we want, while we just happen to be in a relationship or vice versa.

One reason why I am hesitant to read Kendare Blake’s One Dark Throne is that the author bases her story off of cheating. And I couldn’t stomach this arc when I read the first book. It made me sick.

 

Pitting Women against Each Other

Why must we continue using this trope?! We women should be standing up for each other and supporting one another. One trope Victoria Aveyard uses in Red Queen is this one. Evangeline pits herself against Mare. Now their so-called friendship (or mutual agreement) is much better later on in the series, and now, I don’t want to do a facepalm when I read their scenes. But when I first read it, I almost gagged.

 

Normalizing Abusive Relationships

I don’t why I’m stating this in 2018, but let’s not forget that we shouldn’t encourage or even normalize abuse. Whether emotional, psychological, physical, and sexual, abusive relationships should never, ever, be accepted into the book community. I cannot stand when I read it in books.

When I see readers are still shipping Feylin (Tamlin and Feyre) from ACOTAR, I want to smash my head up against my computer screen. Feylin didn’t consist of love. We do not disregard what the abuser does or has done. And we do not make excuses for the said abuser. And let’s be clear with one point: women can also be abusers as well.

Which tropes can you not stand? What ones are you hoping to die off? I’d love to see what your thoughts are on this topic, so let’s chat!

Beyond the Blurb | Criticizing Reviews

Here’s another addition to my discussion post, Beyond the Blurb. I want to talk about criticizing reviews. I find this topic contentious. We bloggers all have different opinions on the same book or of the same author. Sometimes we’ll disagree, and that point is where situations will get dicey. I don’t have a problem with the different opinions. I draw the line when people start harassing others because of their opinions though.

Maybe not all of you have seen the hostility bloggers receive once they post their review. Unfortunately, I have, and I don’t see this trend disappearing any time soon. So when does critiquing a review drift more into criticizing? Making your complaint personal doesn’t help. Yes, we all read the same book, but how we read it and what we see will differ. For example, you may see misogyny as nothing more than a horrible plot device in a book, but I may see it as a way to show how our world is mirroring fiction. When you attack someone, you aren’t helping your side. And you aren’t building up your opinion. Instead, you weaken it.

I’ve seen bloggers attacked for not speaking up. Now I see why those people came after bloggers. But becoming one, I see the dangerous line we walk once we hit the publish button. But we have an avenue to stand up where some people may not have that right to do so.

I would rather have people come to me and ask me why I didn’t talk about these problematic scenes than have them attack me. I’m still branching out into the diverse world. I’m still learning, and I want to support diverse authors and their books. So I may not pick up on something that you may blatantly see. Having an opinion in 2018 has turned toxic. We pit ourselves against each other. And somehow this toxicity has drifted into literature, which has been trying to combat the problem.

Several books have suffered because of this issue. Veronica Roth’s Carve the Mark was one of the most anticipated books of 2017. But when the reviews came out during the release, bloggers were borderline harassed by other readers. They obviously didn’t pick up on the ableism and racism in the book, or they simply didn’t believe they were offensive. Some of the reviews that talked about those concerns persuaded me not to read the book. But what I didn’t expect was the firing squad who lined up those chosen few reviewers and fired hatred.

If you have a red flag about a review, talk about it. Don’t criticize, and don’t belittle that person. Your point won’t come across to anyone. But your anger will, and it won’t help your cause.

 

What are your thoughts on this topic? When does someone cross the line when critiquing a review? When does it become criticizing?

Beyond the Blurb | When Life Gets in the Way of Blogging

Beyond the Blurb is my new discussion post. I’m still figuring out if I want to do it weekly or monthly, so bear with me here. I find a lot of my fellow book bloggers joining in on and contributing to discussion posts. And I love to be a part of them since I get to learn more about my friends (yes, I see you as friends. You have my sympathies 😉).

I’ve never found blogging stressful until I focused on my stats. We all do it. We all want this month to be better than the last, and March is no exception. Thanks to all of you, I had a fantastic month. I haven’t reached past 400 views until now. And I have to thank every single one of you who have supported me. Now I’m onto April, and I’m freaking. Why? Because at the end of March, I needed a week away from blogging, and I’m not sure if I can reach last month’s stats.

Here are my tips for bloggers struggling to find the balance:

1. Decide When You Blog

Unless you’re an influencer (or even if you are), calm down. This is your blog, and you produce posts on your own time. The cosmos isn’t going to care. Your followers will eventually still see your posts, and they’ll continue following you. So plan ahead of time if you feel your life will prevent you from working on your posts. If you can’t do reviews, do tags. And don’t feel guilty for doing tags you haven’t been tagged for. If you don’t want to do them, work on memes or a post about the most anticipated books for the next month. Or you can just take some time away from your site and deal with whatever is bothering you. More importantly, don’t force yourself. You’ll regret every second of doing so.

 

2. Don’t Feel Guilty

With my rough past, sometimes I don’t let the guilt in. I push it away since it’s a difficult and usually dangerous emotion for me to feel. With my blog though, I feel that guilt slithering in and questioning my abilities to be a blogger. Taking time away from your blog won’t kill you though (I still need to remember this part). The book blogging community will understand and can help if you ask. If you take a little longer to work on a post or to reply to comments, so be it.

If you don’t want to do any of those tasks, comment on other bloggers’ posts.They’ll know you’re still around.

 

3. Catch Up Later

Yes, this is an option, one I’m currently working on right now. If you have to work on two Top Ten Tuesdays for next week, go for it. If you have to write a review, set some time away and work on it. As long as that review isn’t a part of a blog tour, you can also postpone it.

I’ve just finished three discussion posts in two hours, and I feel great about accomplishing that task for the week.

 

4. Don’t Always Focus On the Numbers

I truly need to listen to my own advice since I’m freaking out for this month’s stats (and it’s only the ninth day of April). If you have a bad month, accept that fact. If last month was better than this one, deal with it. But now what I’m focusing more on is the quality of the content. Sometimes your followers won’t always see your work though, and you may have a bad stat day, but that’s fine though. Find something you love doing and repeat that if you’re struggling.

If you’re freaking out over the dip in your stats, post a meme and blogger tags, which are big stat makers.

 

5. Take a Break If You Can’t Juggle Life and Blogging

There is absolutely no reason for you to put your blog in front of your health. It’s not worth the pain. So if you need to step away from blogging life so you can handle real-life situations, go for it. We’ll support you all the way. Just like a reading slump, you can fall into a blogging slump. And sometimes you just have to go with it so you don’t burn out.

What do you do when life affects your blogging? What are your tips or tricks that may help out another blogger? Let me know in the comment’s section.